Roommate is my best friend, but not able to pay her half of the bills.?

What's your viewpoint? My Mom thinks that I'm being taken advantage of by my best friend, but there is more to it than meets the eye

The original deal:
– rent (both of us on lease) and utilities split 50/50 ( bills are in my name)
– groceries, toiletries, personal bills, etcpaid separately.
– Both of

What's your viewpoint? My Mom thinks that I'm being taken advantage of by my best friend, but there is more to it than meets the eye

The original deal:
– rent (both of us on lease) and utilities split 50/50 ( bills are in my name)
– groceries, toiletries, personal bills, etcpaid separately.
– Both of us were employed at the time. She is attending university for masters.

Current situation:
– I am still employed, she is not (she quit because they said school or workshe chose school. She has not gotten a new job nor is she attempting to)
– She is only able to pay her half of rent with her school money/scholarships. She says she will pay me back when she gets her Percap. At the moment she is behind 2 months worth of utilities ( soon to be 3).

I love my best friend, but it's starting to get hard to pay all the utilities and have enough for other necessities/savings.

Other answer:

sos_dagger:
Now you are growing up and learning a lesson about friendship and money. Sounds a little bit like you do not trust your so-called bestie to pay you when she gets the money. You questions this and rightly so after all it has been two months already going on three. And what if she does not pay you at all, then what? Well, you can either wait and cross that bridge when it gets here or confront her and talk it out or sign a contract or provide her with an ultimatum and start looking for a new bestie. Your world is going to change either way you choose to pursue this and that can be scary or it could just be another day in your life where you decide you do not want to be taken advantage of anymore. Remember the only person you can control is yourself, how you react, how you let people affect you, how you move past the past and finding new friends and associates first to hang out with may make this transition a little easier in the meanwhile. Money changes everything. It changes the options you have and it affects nearly every aspect of life. But you must control how much or how little you react to those changes. She is your friend, you are not her care taker yet. You must decide what kind of friend she needs to be for you and to you and what kind of friend you need to be for her and to her. Good luck!
daniel:
um. tell her to find a small part time job. **** just working a few days (like 2 or 3 days) a week is still like 300 dollars a month. at least. maybe closer to 400. which should cover the bills. or at least most of the utilities. she needs to manage her time wisely. are there any days she doesnt have school? then she can work. does she work in the morning? work in the afternoon. does she work in the afternoon? then work in the morning. lots of small places are hiring. they may not pay much but a little bit is still better than nothing. and allot of those places will hire her and only have her schedules like 2-3 days a week. seriously. she can find the time.
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DEBS:
You aren't married. She is living off of you to further her education and career. It's causing stress and financial difficulties for you. Unless she's planning on sharing with you her new salary she was able to get by focusing full time on school then she's a leach. She needs to pull her weight.
Donald B:
I know it is hard to do, but make her put down in writing that she will pay you and when. The trouble with lending friends money (which is basically what this is) that it tends to hurt your friendship especially if you ask for it. They can also easily forget how much they owe.
Kathy S:
It's a business arrangement, darling. Not a personal one. She's not a member of your family, you really do not owe her special consideration. It's a financial burden for you, and it's unfair.
She should go back to her family.
Ann:
she said she will pay but that does not help you now, sit down together and go over the bills you are paying for her, write up an agreement that she will pay you and make sure you keep every bill and proof that you alone paid it.
Peashooter:
Forget what your mom says. Imagine two strangers. One has the same circumstances as you. One is the same as your roommate. What should they do to resolve this? You already know.
Who:
If you are happy to support her so she can go to school then whats the problem?

If you aint then just stop doing it

IF you are happy to wait for her to get her percap then get her to sign a document saying she will repay you say within 1 month of that date
(DONT say she will repay when she gets it , cos if she dont get it then she has no obligation to repay you at all)

And I mean "get her" – that is – tell her she either signs it or you stop supporting her and she leaves

noah:
make her sign an agreement for an amount of money and worst comes to worst you can take her to small claims court. she does sound like she's taking advantage of you, and yes it sounds ugly! if she is honest with you it wont be a big deal for her to sign it! **note you cant get your money back unless she signs stating she owes you x amount. i'd talk with the landlord too
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