Me and my children's father are in financial struggles right now. So he has been telling me to like look for a job. I have been applying to housekeeping jobs and clothing store jobs. He doesn't want me in an environment with men around because of his insecurities and trust issues. So I have a job interview
Me and my children's father are in financial struggles right now. So he has been telling me to like look for a job. I have been applying to housekeeping jobs and clothing store jobs. He doesn't want me in an environment with men around because of his insecurities and trust issues. So I have a job interview for Macy's. Yay!! I'm so excited because this is a good opportunity for me I have been a stay at home mom for 6 years and I have a 4 year old 2 year old and 1 year old. He got into some trouble and could face jail time and we have no support system what so ever what would we do?? I can't schedule my interview with Macy's without his agreement I am so frustrated!
You're in a very horrible situation. My heart goes out to you. Jealous men are disgusting if not sickening. I am a male and I hear about this all the time. Did you tell him that Macy's is where you want to work? Did he say "No?" Does he work? Maybe you can explain that Macy's is a nice place to work and it is clean and sanitary and you will get a discount on clothing so you can fulfill the job requirement.
If he insists that you cannot work at Macy's because of the off chance that you will work along side a male human then you will have to tell him that every job has men in evidence. What job can he recommend? Ask him that. "What job can you recommend that will make you happy?" Then go apply at those jobs that he recommends. That should solve the problem but not completely. YOU want to work at Macy's. After you strike out at all the jobs that he recommended then you can offer Macy's again. If he still won't let you work at Macy's then he can live with the idea that you won't be working at all. If he becomes any more abusive or bullies you into finding just ANY job, then you might suggest Macy's one last time. Then you go to the social services and tell a Social Worker your story and ask for her advice and help. Some cities have services where they place people into an apartment and provide day care and help people like yourself extricate themselves from abusive husbands. At least try to find such a service in your area.
Do you have anyone that could watch your children if you worked part-time or if your husband went to jail? Maybe look into a care.com profile either for a babysitter or a housekeeper. They are free to create. How does he feel about Macy's? Also have you tried selling the kids unused stuff on Facebook garage sale pages? Another good site to use is 2Hands Outreach or contacting the Salvation Army for Toys for Tots, if that is available in your area.
I suggest you talk to him about how important the opportunity is for you. Jealousy cannot feed your kids. You can also assure him that you won't be fooling around at work.
You need to gain control of your own life and not be restricted by his control and distrust issues. If you allow yourself to be manipulated in the way you describe then life may become very hard for you.
Do your kids a favour and put them up for adoption. They deserve to be raised by someone with a brain.